Make words mean something~!
Welcome to the first ever post from Jent. :oI sincerely hope that nothing that is said here is taken personally, and I hope it does not come off as "holier-than-thou" or condescending. It's simply Jent sharing her thoughts.
I realize, that a lot of people that come to this site are still in high school, or not even there yet. Not to say that any of you are just a bunch of kids. Sometimes, I wish that people had let me have some insight from their own experiences. It would've made things easier for me.
I know, that here on the internet, perhaps, the only way to truly express yourself is through words. But, I feel, that words are starting to lose their meaning, and to me, that makes them less special. For example, when you say that you hate someone, that's a really STRONG word. But people throw it around like it's nothing. The same can be said for love. If you really love someone, it is a serious emotion. And when you tell someone you love them, think for a moment, about how that person is going to percieve it.
Of course, words are just words, and they can't actually hurt you physically. But, I think that it's possible to do a lot of damage with them, when considering another's feelings.
The only reason, that the words, "idiot", "retard" and "imbecile" are negative words, is because we as humans, made them that way. Years ago, they were simply medical terms, but people misused them, and turned them into something offensive.
Of course, words are just words, and they can't actually hurt you physically. But, I think that it's possible to do a lot of damage with them, when considering another's feelings.
The only reason, that the words, "idiot", "retard" and "imbecile" are negative words, is because we as humans, made them that way. Years ago, they were simply medical terms, but people misused them, and turned them into something offensive.
Since we are a small community, and there are a lot of people I see on here that are dating or consider themself in a relationship with someone online, many of us, right here on the site, take a moment, and really think about what you say to that person. You may use affectionate terms casually, because you feel strongly about that person. But consider what thoughts you are really putting into that person's mind. If you really care about them, it is probably better to not rush things. You have your whole life ahead of you, and there will be a lot of people that will come in and out of your life.
The same goes for insults. Believe me, I've been guilty of them myself. There are just times, that someone is being so ignorant or disrespectful, I blurt things out that I really didn't mean. I've probably used every curse word known in the English language, atleast once. I'm not saying for one moment, that it was right. I'm owning up to my mistakes. Surely, no one is perfect.
All that I am asking, is that we all show each other a little bit of respect, when it comes to the feelings of one another.
All that I am asking, is that we all show each other a little bit of respect, when it comes to the feelings of one another.
posted by Jent-sama @ 6:05 PM
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13 Comments:
Yup!
Many things do get tossed around here... even the most simpliest thing can set off another person even though things were said in jest.
This IS the internet... we can't see the hurt in someones eyes or hear the quiver in their voice...
People make mistakes, everyone does... but then there are also those that come purposely to cause trouble... that's another issuse altogether...
People come here for many different reasons... Anime, Drawing, Chatting, Role Playing... few come in hopes of learning about Japanese Culture...
Those that come to "Role Play" should watch what they say and who they say it too... to some... a "HuG" is just 3 letters thrown together... but to others it has a big impact... Things DO become more extreme then that at times... And often enough there are those that end up hurt...
It only takes a few extra seconds to be polite to someone, and it could make all the difference in the world... Try it.
I have see some preverted things on here. Some of the things said and done were very offesive towards me. I'm naming any names but I think we all need to be considerate of all what we say. Also with the affection if you wish to be affection towards someone take that to a private place. That is something that should be private.
Jent-chama, I truly wish you could come and tell these exact words to my school. ;_;
To the world, really.
Jent,
I think the stealing or borrowing of ppl's names without permission needs to be addressed with Pocky.
Oh! I know at times things seem dire... or people just want to emphasize something...
But using "Colourful" Language just shows lack of creativity, originality and vocabulary...
If someone makes you upset... using an over used, unoriginal word would probably have less of an effect to convey your dismay... don't be a drone.. try something original.
"You smeek of oatmeal"
Jent, we are all blessed to have your wisdom and you, yourself on Ani-Pock. Thanks for bringing your opinion forward. It must have been hard to muster up the ability. Thanks.
There are always going to be people that come on here, just for the sheer pleasure of spamming the boards, or making people feel crappy about themselves. The nice thing about it, is that they are easy to block. A lot of us were here back when there was no way to block people on Gabbly, and now, we've been granted the power to simply ignore them. I very much wish that people would simply ignore those that come on, starving for attention by putting other's down.
Also, if you are afraid that someone is using your name, simply register with Gabbly. That way, we will always know that it is you. ^^
Kip, unfortunately, most times, I don't speak out until I'm really aggrivated. XD
One thing that should be mentioned... which I didn't think would need to be mentioned...
Look under the banner... See the flags?
Many people from all over the world come to this site...
Patience and understanding is very important in life, and it would do well to use both of those qualities and respect those of other cultures that may come here.
English isn't everyones first language, please be mindful of that...
Thank you.
Hahahahahaha.
10 points for effectiveness, 2 for subtlety
Think whatever you want Syn.
Perhaps your statements would be more effective, if you would explain yourself properly.
The power of words is also most effective, when people read what you are saying, rather than just jumping to conclusions.
Thus is the difference between "Low and High context societies"...
Although Low Context Societies tend to be more flexible and imaginative on how things can be said...
So much explaination is usually needed to clearify the meaning.
Communication is difficult because the context itself has little meaning...
High Context Societies, have an easier time communicating, because the context is already clear and implied. Many things are left unsaid, letting the culture itself doing the explainning...
But usually a lack of creativity is found because some much is common within the society...
What does this mean exactly?
Most people that come to Ani-Pock are from Low Context Societies... and even though Ani-Pock appears to show similarities with a High Context society, when Ani-Pock related things are brought up to those who outside of Ani-Pock...
The meaning of ones words should try to be coherent to avoid any confusion and misunderstandings.
Example: Someone was trying to explain "Mat Ball" to me...
"Do you know baseball? Well, it's like that. You have the bases and everything, but instead of someone throwing the ball, they roll a soccer ball and you kick it and run."
"Oh, I understand. Soccer Baseball?"
Using five words to explain something instead of just one, may seem lengthy but is necessary when the meaning isn't specifically implied.
Old comment from Asuka, sent by Kami:
One part of me can agree, another cannot. Sure we create a world with words used lightly. Hug and love doesn't get the same meaning maybe, so be true. It's harsh to say we're throwing around words. I'll speak this out of my own view, not othes so please, this is just my opinion.
I don't have a bag og hugs and kisses that I don't give out to people like those dressed people at tivoli gives out candy to children. My feelings that "I want to hug someone" is made(!) out of what someone do for me. I give people hugs when they deserve them. A really cute and nice person aww I just wanna hug and say thank u, I run over by happiness and cause myself to hug the other. I see him/her make a lil "^-^" and usually hugs back. I created a moment of a lil happiness. It's my view what the affection I give is for me. I usually get the
"Yes but you do it ALL THE TIME"
Well maybe the people I hug all deserve it. I see good in people, you all here deserve hugs. If I were a mother you'd all be my wonderful childen a mother only can love, no matter the mistake that child does. But yes ur my friends not my children XD.
I might give my private life to Ani-Pock and I feel happy to share it with so many wonderful friends. But I don't expect people to listen to it. I learned to be an open person and share my feelings from happiness to tears with my friends. If I just give happiness but hold all of my privacys to myself. What would become of "trust"?
I love the world of love we have now. I love the way I can find ease with everyone at ani-pock. After comming here my heart is filled with joy and care for others.
But now to "the bad" (so loong I'm so SORRY). Yes I throw stuff att bro telling him I hate him. Ever seen an anime when a chibi does that? It's the same thing when they say something and don't mean it. Well I wanted to come to that as long as 2 people know what intention it is it's just fine. I'm totally on Jent-san's side when it comes to throwing words if the first person thinks "Oh no he hates me *sob*" And the other one thinks "Geez that was so ironic XD"
It's collides. Same thing for hug. "Oh she loves me back" and "Yay a hug!" 2 different strenghs.
This is all from Asuka (good huh? I won't write anymore XD)
Old comment from Asuka, sent by Kami:
Meaning Asuka's sent by Kami... not the comment ^^' lol
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